Monday, August 15, 2005

Emergencies vs. Priorities

Well, another argument ensued today. This time because J came home late. I think much of it stems from J's career. He works as a maintenance troubleshooter for a series of senior apartments. When emergencies strike, he's on call. I understand they need him, at least I try to. It's very hard being "the other woman" to a husband's career.

The argument had to do with Puppy classes that I would like to sign Holly up for. They are being offered at our local Petco and I think it would do Holly a lot of good. She's bright and has already learned several commands but this would reinforce what she already knows. A positive plus would also be her socializing with other puppies in our area. I thought J should be the one to go with her. As of lately, Holly isn't listen to him as well as she use to. Most likely, it has to do with him always being at work.

So I told him when the classes will be, one night a week for six weeks. He doesn't feel he can commit to it because he never knows when an emergency will arise. In my opinion, he needs to make time for the important things in life. He wanted the puppy and I feel he needs to make the time to be involved in raising her. This is really a precursor problem because the real issues are future children. I don't want to raise a pup alone, let alone a child. It's one thing to say no to a puppy training class. It's completely different to put work before your family. This is an old argument of J and I, there have been many holidays and events I have missed or attended alone because of some emergency or another.

I'm not sure where I'm going with this, and I'm sure it will come up again. We are taught all our lives that a good work ethic is a priority. Shouldn't we also be taught that family is just, if not more so, important? I don't want him to quit his job, J likes what he does. I just don't think work is all there is to life. You have to have more, you have to be more than your job. I'm not asking for anything more than a commitment to one hour a week. Is that too much? Is it not enough?

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mauser*girl said...

Having a family member on call is hard, especially because it doesn't allow you to plan for things. But I would trade with you two in a second. My husband works 7 am through 9 pm every day including Saturday. We don't get to do anything together.

As for puppy classes. We used to foster dogs for a couple of years until we moved to NoVa this spring, and I don't believe puppy classes are a good place to teach a dog obedience because there are too many distractions. That's speaking from personal experience only, of course. First a dog has to learn a command in the home where there are no distractions. Then you reinforce what they already know close to the home where it's not too busy, such as the back yard. When the dog does good there, try more populated places. Petco, being as full of people and pets as it is, should be the last place you take 'em.

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